Practicing Feedback as a Love Language

May 16 & 17th, 2026 at 10am-12:30pm PT

A weekend workshop for friends, lovers, and comrades who yearn for the intimacy of relationships that are capable of tension, conflict, and rupture.

Feedback is the mode through we can co-create change, for more aligned relationships with our values, our people, and ourselves.

It is a core building block in both minimizing conflict and making repair after rupture. As well as encouraging and re-affirming what works.

Feedback is a crucial, foundational skill in cultivating nourishing relationships and sustainable movements.

But feedback is hard! In both receiving and giving. There are big feelings, power dynamics, and sometimes, conflicting needs.

This workshop is for you if you:

  • believe that what we practice on the small scale ripples out into cultures and systems.

  • aim to embody abolitionist praxis and are committed to strengthening your relationships through difference, conflict, and rupture.

  • want to re-orient to feedback, not as a scary confrontation but as a loving invitation for furthering connection.

  • want to develop and practice skills that account for feelings, power, and nuance.

Agenda

Through teaching, prompts, discussion and somatic exercises, we will explore both theory & practice.

Day 1: What needs re-orienting?

  • Responsive vs. proactive feedback

  • Consent and people-pleasing

  • Carceral logic & shame

  • Power dynamics

  • Discernment

Day 2: What needs practice & repetition?

  • Reflecting & re-imagining

  • Assessing purpose & strategy

  • Writing & practicing scripts

  • Leaning into discomfort

The Container

  • Live on Zoom with access to a recording for registrants

  • Dates & Time: Sat. & Sun. May 16 & 17th, 2026 at 10am-12:30pm PT

  • Format: Slides, reflection prompts, group shares, script practice, somatic exercises

Accessibility

  • Automated live captioning will be available via Zoom. Unfortunately, ASL interpretation and more accurate closed captioning is not available for this offering but I will be working on this for future offerings!

  • We will also make use of Padlet for crowdsourcing ideas and notes (optional).

  • Everyone who registers will receive the recording and slides. Folks may request for access to slides before the workshop.

  • Payment plans & scholarships available.

Words of Affirmation

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Words of Affirmation 〰️

“I deeply appreciate this offering as the timing aligned perfectly with a current (and ongoing) repair process with a loved one. We were giving prompt for reflection, strategies for approaching conversations and time to journal in order to receive feedback. My conversations and conflict have all ended with a lot more ease now that I have this skills update. I am excited to keep on growing and learning!”

— A.

“This work is revolutionary work! Ji-Youn has a way of getting to the heart of feedback and shared practical ways of practicing skills to better our communication and capacity. I feel better equipped, both intellectually and somatically, to venture more proactively into feedback conversations.”

— Kate

Tickets

90 USD for the two days.

Payment plans broken into 2 or 3 separate payments are available ($45×2 or $30×3), as well as limited scholarship spots for SDQTBIPOC — send an email.

If you have a friend, lover, or comrade with whom you’d like to practice feedback, consider sharing the workshop link for them to join you.

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The Facilitator

Photo of Ji-Youn, an east asian femme, wearing a duckbill mask, striking a pose on a rock step on the rooftop of a building at sunset in Vancouver.

Hello hello~ My name is Ji-Youn 지연 (they/she).

I come to this work primarily as a Mad psychiatric survivor. After some years of heightened Madness where I both experienced and caused a lot of harm and rupture, I committed myself to studying love and practicing relational skills as a way of survival.

I know in my bones what it means to need each other. I would not be here if it were not for the deep commitment of my care web and our shared patience in learning skills for repair and healing after trauma and rupture.

As a fa-silly-tator and therapist-ish, I am delighted to be able to share these Mad skills with immense joy and enthusiasm. And this work stems from many ruptured relationships, deep grief and heartbreak. In this offering, I aim for us to hold both the grief of what was and what could’ve been, as well as the joy of what is possible. I look forward to sharing space and co-creating more loving worlds with you.

You can learn more about me, my lineages, and my practices:

Essays & Podcasts

Substack

Instagram

For further questions, feedback or inquiries, email me at jiyoun@itsjiyounkim.com.